Sorry Not Sorry


If you’re a woman in 2015, or follow anything that Sheryl Sandberg has to say about leaning in, you probably know that women have a propensity to apologize. A lot. And for a some weird reasons. Like when a stranger bumps into you. Or before you utter a brilliant idea to room full of superiors.

Lately, I’ve also noticed this happening in sports. For example, when I play tennis with women, most tend to apologize a LOT.  Just go watch four women playing club doubles and you’ll hear a continuous stream of “sorry!” ringing out the entire time. It’s pretty comical.

You threw two wonky tosses and are taking awhile to serve? “Sorry!”
You made an error and lost a point for your team? “Sorry!”
Ponytail fell out and now you’re blinded by your bangs? “Sorry!”

Same goes for other sports – I see it in skiing, yoga, at the gym and studio.

But there’s one place I definitely don’t hear “sorry” … from the guys, unless it’s really necessary.

To be clear, I’m not immune to this sorry affliction. Etiquette in sports is important – but I’ve become more conscious of not giving my power away by apologizing for things that aren’t truly offensive or rude. I find it removes distraction, makes for a more positive environment, and overall makes me feel more confident and in control – all things that lead to a better result.

Turns out Sheryl’s advice applies far beyond the boardroom.

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Chrissy Trampedach is a PR & communications pro by day and fitness buff, skiing fanatic, dedicated yogi and wannabe tennis champ by night (and weekend). As a former competitive figure skater, she’s lived a life of training and sports from a young age. Today, she fuels her competitive spirit and drive to challenge her body and mind with USTA tennis, skiing adventures around the world, the SF yoga community and tracking the latest fitness trends. She lives in San Francisco with her husband Tim and their “75-lb lap dog” Enzo.

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